Own Understanding !

So the first thing, or the most fundamental thing is: how to live.

Let me tell you a few things. First: your life is your life, it is nobody else's.

So don't allow yourself to be dominated by others, don't allow yourself to be dictated to by others, that is a betrayal of life.

If you allow yourself to be dictated to by others -- maybe your parents,
your society, your education system -- your politicians, your priests, whosoever they are - if you allow yourself to be dominated by others you will miss your life.

Because the domination comes from outside and life is within you. They never meet.

I am not saying that you should become a no-sayer to each and everything.
That too is not of much help.

There are two types of people.
One is an obedient type, ready to surrender to any and everybody. They don't have any independent soul in them; they are immature, childish, always searching for a father-figure, for somebody to tell them what to do and what not to do.

They are not able to trust their own being. These people are the greater part of the world, the masses.
Then there are, against these people, a small minority who reJect society, who reject the values of the society.

They think they are rebellious. They are not, they are only reactionaries.

Because whether you listen to society or you reject society, if society remains in either way the determining factor, then you are dominated by the society.

A really rebellious person is one who is neither for society nor against society, who simply lives his life according to his own understanding.

Whether it goes against society or it goes with society is not a consideration, it is irrelevant.

Sometimes it may go with
the society, sometimes it may not go with the society, but that is not the point to be considered.

He lives according to his understanding, according to his small light.

And I am not saying that he becomes very egoistic about it. No, he is very humble. He knows that his light is very small, but that is all the light that there is. He is not adamant, he's very humble.

He says, 'I may be wrong, but please allow me to be wrong according to myself.'

That is the only way to learn.
To commit mistakes is the only way to learn. 
To move according to one's own understanding is the only way to grow and become mature.

OshO 
The Art of Dying
Talks on Hassidism